Passion is BS!

Had a panel phone-interview from a well-known company a while ago. The role was technical (analytics and insights). As per them, they were looking for candidates PASSIONATE USERS of the company’s products!!

This word “PASSIONATE” has been over used that its meaning got disrupted in the process. It’s like if you’re not sure what are you looking for in a candidate you’d say “we’re looking for passionate candidates” instead of “looking for leaders who get work done, impact business growth and ethically prosper technically and professionally in the organization”

I mean my Marketing Director once was Senior Brand manager of Pampers and Always at Proctor and Gamble! What passion would a MAN in his 30's have for Diapers and Female Pads?! Passion might be about growing business, prospering in a competitive market, learning…Not necessarily the PRODUCT!!

I’d trust P&G’s judgment when they hired such a candidate, to get the job done and grow the business, instead of wishy-washy arguments!

As Scott Adams - the author of How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big - puts it: ‘Passion Is BS’. I trust that too!

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Dopamine-Based Social Connections

The instant gratification of receiving a like, wink or text from someone... No matter if you're looking for a serious relationship or not, you end up keeping yourself busy with legitimate dopamine rushes!! In a busy stressful life, these are tranquilizers! Like a bar of chocolate or a glass of fine wine... 

Usually people make final judgements about people who they meet for the first time. May be according to their inferiority agenda or according to what is selling best in the market of people and relationships; but usually they call it spark or chemistry. Eitherways, we see people for who we are - as in mindset, experiences, wounds, fears and aspirations - more than who they really are...!

In fact chemistry is "developable", if this could be a word. Chemistry can be developed between people of common backgrounds, beliefs, interests… Healthy relationships develop over time! No instant coffee here!!! 

Erich Fromm in his book - The Art of Loving - explains, the sudden collapse of the wall between two strangers is a thrilling and intoxicating life experience. Like a dry land blessed with rain in the midst of drought. This miraculous intimate connection is often eased or initiated via sexual attraction and consummation. And still majority believe its chemistry and/or spark.

This type of feelings-based-love is very volatile and requires employing the strategy of Keeping Her/Him Interested and Keeping Ones-self Mysterious and Excited in the process.

Once the potential couple are acquainted with each other their intimacy fades as well as it's thrilling miraculous character, until their disagreement, their disappointments, their mutual boredom kill whatever is left of the initial excitement. But usually they don't notice this.

They are carried by the obsession, being crazy about each other which is the proof of the degree of their loneliness. Instead of building a healthy relationship, this mode makes dating a journey searching for someone to fill somewhere in the void of the lonely life.

Instead of taking the time getting to know ones-self and the other, it all focuses on "Feeling Good" sensation. And in the process you might get attached to someone some way; no matter what makes you attached to them.

Hence: "All this kind of relationship amounts to is the well‑oiled relationship between two persons who remain strangers all their lives, who never arrive at a central relationship, but who treat each other with courtesy and who attempt to make each other feel better." ― Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving.

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Ultimate Human Struggle!

I think one of the ultimate human struggles is to stay still and do nothing; yet be fine and relaxed with it. The act of "Inaction". It may sound kind of an effortless state, while in reality it effortfully deals with the restlessness within. Restless search for meaning, value, worth and purpose is overwhelming!

Being hammered by the demanding urges to fill the voids keeps us busy. We assume purpose and meaning in being busy. Until, we are too busy to care for ourselves; too busy have the time of "Inaction" to phase out of the cluttered commotions of daily life. But we need some silence too. Silence is an essential ingredient in the song of life!

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