It has been a phenomenon.. But, I believe it's a human nature..
People talk to themselves more than they to each other.. And most of what they
say to themselves is different from what they tell you or tell one another...
But, when they start telling you what they exactly tell themselves, we say that
they "opened up".
Have you been texting and you typed "lol" just because
you had nothing to say or to lighten the load of a potentially aggressive
message? Have you been asked for how have you been and you just replied
"I'm fine, thanks" or "I'm good, thank God." or
"Elhamdolillah" while you don't feel good at all? Are you really
thankful as you say? Do you even mean it while saying "Thank God" or
"Elhamdolillah"? It is not only you... People tend to conceal their
weaknesses and hide their wounds by just telling the answers that would satisfy
the question asked, without revealing their state of being or what they really
feel... They may even feel bad already when they share it with themselves.
Our ego and pride, as well as mistrust of our surrounding
communities, prevent us from opening up to others. Our doubts of being accepted
by others build up walls between us and them. When you open up, you are just
revealing part of the "Real you". The "Real You" that may
be, to some extent, you are ashamed of and/ or you cannot accept being that
person. Or you reject being in that state(s) and circumstances that
collectively and eventually contribute to the person you are at this very
moment. That's why I think that it is so courageous to
speak up your joys, sorrows, dreams, fears, desires and defeats.
Usually, we open up when we are secure enough, and trust that we
are accepted and valued for who we are. That is where, and among whom, we find
comfort. I bet you tried that feeling before.
Now, ask yourself, how many times you made people insecure or unconfident of
who they are or what they are capable of. Be sure that, every time you made
someone feeling no good about themselves you contributed to soul destruction.
Be kind to yourself. Be kind to others, specially the
unkind. For the unkind need your kindness the most. You never know
what they passed through, nor the scares life left in their hearts, that made
them who they are today. May be you are the small little window that gets
sunshine into their dark cold hearts. May be you will develop to be their first
experience of kindness. Just stop focusing on yourself worthiness and
avoid being egocentric looking for rewards for what you do to others. For you
were granted a lot of things that you deny them being blessings and you accept
them as givens in your life.
Be true to yourself. And be true to others. Tell them what you
feel about them. Speak about them to them. Tell them how great they are and how
they inspire you. May be what you say shall be the cool glass of water they
drink along their walk in the desert of life that day. Yet, keep honesty and
truthfulness as keys of everything you say and do.
Be genuine. Express your real feelings. People are
delighted when they feel trusted. Ask for their opinion and discuss it with
them. Be sure, you are giving them a gift by doing so. Yet, remember to listen
more than you speak. Listen with love and compassion. Every one of us is struggling
life, and even the strongest needs a shoulder to cry on.
May you have truth in heart and life.
Be blessed,
Andy!
- We type “lol” to
but we don’t even smile while typing it, we say “inshallah” to avoid committing
to a word and we say “Elhamdulillah” to conceal our broken hearts.
- May be you are the small little window that gets
sunshine into their dark cold hearts. May be you will develop to be their first
experience of kindness.
- It is
so courageous to speak up your joys, sorrows, dreams,
fears, desires and defeats.
